I don’t know about you but it appears to me like the planets and the stars have been pushing my hangry* button way too often as of late!
*Hungry and Angry in a neat package that always demands chocolate
Thank you, Snickers Bar, for seeing me through this challenging time!
You know it’s time to stop and examine this unwelcome behavior when both your husband and your dog are wondering, “WHO is this person and when is she going to leave?!”
But is this REALLY unwelcome behavior? Or is this a gift that resembles Jack Nicholson from the Shining?
When I put myself in my time-out chair, I can see that my, ummm, behavior is happening because something has triggered me. It’s now my job to figure out what that trigger was.
Here is the truth. Anger is fear.
Think about it. You’re walking through the woods and you come across a Mamma bear and her 3 cubs. She sees you coming. What does she do?
She gets up BIG AND UGLY!!
Is she angry. Nope. She’s SCARED you will hurt her babies so she gets in your face!
So when you get HANGRY, take a moment to ask yourself… What am I afraid of?
Usually, it’s not the person or situation that you are so pissed at the most.
It’s you. It’s the way you chose to respond to the situation that pisses you off the most.
The next time you get triggered with an angry response, do yourself and everyone else a big favor.
- What is this REALLY about anyway?
- What do I stand to benefit if I continue to be angry?
- Did I let myself down by not standing my ground?
- Am I angry at myself for not standing in my power?
- Was it my ego calling the shots, or was it my soul?
- How important is it that I’m right? Is it enough that I know I’m right or is my ego on a trip needing to prove something?
- Is your wounded child the one having the hissy fit?
Remember… no one can make you hangry unless you choose to be hangry! Sometimes the best thing you can do is to put yourself in time-out so you can regroup to get to the root of the issue.
Triggers are gifts! Accept them with gratitude.